I was sitting the other day with a group of people and marriage was the topic of discussion. Everyone was arguing how most married couples are not happy, bored or just living life together because it feels comfortable, not forgetting that it also becomes familiar territory.
I kept listening to the conversation thinking to myself: ‘why would anyone stay with anyone if they’re not happy?’ and then, of course, being little ms. expressive, I had to ask the question out loud, and the answer I got did not, in any way, make me even slightly understand why would people do that!
The answer was: ‘it’s #normal’
It’s normal for people to grow bored in a relationship, to simply just stay for the sake of surviving, for the fear of letting go, or the fear of simply starting something new.
This does not only apply to this subject alone, this applies to every other thing in our life- The job we hate but stay in, because come one, it’s normal. I mean who likes their job anyway! or changing yourself for the sake of fitting in, because again, it’s normal, that’s what society implies on us and besides, everyone else is doing it too!
But what is normal? and who sets the standard for that? and if that’s what normal is, then do you really want to be normal?
Another question I have for you today is:
if everyone is wrong, does that make it right?
I mean this is not a grey area here, and I’m not discussing something controversial. I am inviting you back to your basic most precious gift as a human and that is thinking!
Think of what you say before you say it, think of your life and how it is the way it is, think of your actions and whether you believe in them or not. Think of who you are? and the reasons for which you are that person today?
Do you live the way you do because it’s normal? or do you actually want to live that way?
Normal is just a word that we invented to label things that the mass does. But are we cattle? or are we unique genius individuals which were given the gift of choice.
We can choose to be in that relationship or to simply leave. To let our soul die in that corporate desk job or to follow our dreams. To be who we are without any ounce of attention to what other people think.
That is our choice and we have the full responsibility to make the right one for us.
So, ask yourself today, do I want to be normal? or do I want to be me?
“If you are always trying to be normal, you will never know how amazing you can be.” -#MayaAngelou
Peace & Love,